…Ngopi dulu yuk…

Geus poe Juma’ah euy! Geus hayang gancangan balik urang teh, ti tatadi ngan ceting (chatting) jeung si Neneng jeung bolak balik mukaan prenster hungkul. Nepika geus arapal tah statusna barudak teh. Nu lebar mah si Meta euy, geus kaburu jadian jeung si Atang. Bebel teh. Padahal ku urang geus dimonitor terus eta status si Meta, angger we keneh urang kacolongan. Nasib.. nasibbb… Lah, paduli teuing lah. Masih aya keneh Anggi, Mona, jeung Dewi. Urang kudu merenahan sistim monitoring urang yeuh. Maenya kapiheulaan wae tuluy ku batur? Tara dialajar ngantri atawa kumaha batur teh? Dodol…!

Geura urang tingali. Pilem naon wae nu maen peuting ieu nya? Open new window. Sinema 21 dot com. Walah.. Tah ieu.. Haha.. Pas pisan yeuh. "Janji Pocong Perawan Titisan Berdarah Biru". Waah. Pas pisan. Urang teh geus jangjian jeung si Neneng. Pan wiken cenah, rek nga-date atuh urang oge. Maenya eleh wae ku batur. Ah ku urang rek diajakan lalajo nu ieu we. Pan lumayan engke mun pas si Neneng sieuneun, urang bisa kabagean saeutik-saeutik lah. Hahaha.. Kudu aya make strategi atuh dul.. Siga urang kieu tah. "Dadang…" Ke heula.. Naha asa aya nu manggilan nya?

"Dang.. Euy, Dadang"

*Gelepokkk…*

Duh gusti… Hulu aing, si dudul teh. Saha nu wawanianan nga..

"Eh, Bapa. Nyauran abdi, Pa?"

Si Bos euy. Belegug teh hulu urang diteke!

"Enya, ti tatadi urang ngageroan maneh teh. Ari maneh teh keur digawe atawa naon?"

"Sumuhun Pa.. Ieu abdi teh atos ti enjing da didamel terus atuh. Nepi ka pareurih ieu panon teh. Punduk oge cararangkeul. Asa tos haseupan ieu mastaka abdi oge, seueur teuing dipake mikir panginten"

"Heueuh.. Huntu maneh tah. Ari tadi siah muka website bioskop. Sangka urang teu merhatikeun? Eta naon deui, window messenger aya dalapan kitu? Ari maneh teh digawe atawa arisan di dieu teh? Eta naon deui..? Oh, keur ngirim-ngirim lamaran gawean maneh teh? Alus pisan maneh teh Dadang"

Euleuh siah, aing kanyahoan. Aduuuhh si Bapa teh, ari rek jul jol teh ngomong-ngomong heula atuh. Jadi urang na pan bisa rada siap-siap. Ieu mah nyaho-nyaho geus aya di tukangeun urang. Dodol teh.

"Sanes Pa, eta mah abdi nuju ngadamel riset. Kumaha upami perusahaan kompetitor teh ngadamel strategi penjualanana. Bilih we aya nu bisa kapake strategi na ku perusahaan urang. Teras eta nu window messenger mah abdi kirang terang. Leres, Pa. Da abdi mah tara ceting. Terang-terang teh aya kabarukaan we eta window na teh. Batur heulaan panginten nu ngirim-ngirim mesej ka abdi"

"Heueuh, alus… Ngawadul we terus. Sangka maneh teh urang gede di leuweung jadi gampang dibohongan? Yeuh. Ari barang nu anyar asup gudang geus disetok encan? Ieu teh geus poe Juma’ah. Jam opat engke kabeh geus kudu asup di database nya?!"

Alah siah.. Aing poho. Ti tadi urang teh ngeunah we ngagodaan si Neneng. Aya barang anyar datang geuning. Euh, aing mah, maenya lembur deui mah peuting ieu? Kumaha acara lalajo jeung si Neneng.. Bakuuulll.. bakulll… Gagal deui gagal deui..

"Oh sumuhun, ieu oge nuju dipidamel ku abdi. Bapa mah tenang wae. Terang-terang engke database na janten lengkap we. Serahkeun we ka abdi. Da abdi mah nu pang kompetenna di antara pegawe nu sejen teh"

"Alus. Pupuji maneh we. Geus ditu gawekeun. Urang mah pokona nyahona jam opat kabeh geus beres!"

Heueuh maneh, ngeunah we ngomong. Sok atuh gawekeun sorangan? Mun bisa anggeus jam opat, teukteuk tah ceuli urang. Aing ayeuna nu kudu puk pek. Kudu lembur deui. Paling henteu nepika jam dalapan. Rek terus lalajo, pasti barau kesang da urang. Geus kitu bakal tunduh deui. Bisa-bisa urang sare pas lalajo engke. Heuhh.. Neneng, neneng.. Aa teh punten. Sanes teu hoyong da. Ari hayang mah hayang. Tapi da garis nasib teh geus ti dituna sigana.

Prince of Egypt. Yes. That was the title of the movie. The story was about Israel people escaping from Egypt being lead by Moses.

There are two sides of the story. First, it tells us how great and mighty God is. With His power, He made the sea split leaving it dry for some moments to give the Israel time for crossing forward. Then when the Egypt troops came to chase them, the water came back and filled the dry parts. The water killed the troops. That was a miracle. God is able to do the impossible!

The other side of the story, to me, is even more inspiring. It took several days for the Israel people to get out from Egypt’s slavery. But It took forty years for them to get rid of the slave mentality. And the most crazy part is that only two men out of millions people could step out from slaves mentality into free men mentality. So sad!

Why did God let them go around and around like forever in dessert? That’s because He wanted to upgrade His people mentality. He had a plan, a better future, a better position, a better life for his people. But first, they need to let go and wash away the old slaves mentality. It just won’t fit to the new situation.

The people many times gave complains about how easy things were before. When they didn’t get food, no water, in war, they brought their complains to Moses. They wanted everything to go as they had gotten used to. They were happy to become slaves. Meaning: they didn’t want to change.

It is interesting how God divides the two sides of the story. At one side, He did His part. Taking the Israel people out from the slavery using His mighty power. On the other side, He was willing to teach the people to let go of the old mentality and install the new one. The mentality of free men. He is willing to spend day by day and wait patiently for forty years. And what was His reward? How many millions people could enter the Promised Land?  Not even a thousand. Not even a hundred. Not even ten. Only TWO people. That was crazy!

At the first time, God was fighting for the Israel people. After they escaped from Egypt and came to the dessert, yet God was still with them. But they must fight for themselves. Meaning: they must take action!

Do we want to spend 40 years to change our mentality? Why don’t we do it now? Is change is too painful to bare for us? Or would it be more painful if we always stay the same? Why don’t we want to climb and meet new better standard? Do we want to be part of the millions or the two people?

Just a side topic. One situation which makes me sad is the fact that some Christians focus only to God’s miracle part. I was one of them. They don’t even realize that they need to take some actions too in order to reach what God has planned for them. Do the prayer, and wait until one day they get rich. Take part of church activities and hope that God will bond their families with love and warmth. Go to church every Sunday and hope God will point at one of the pretty girls and whisper: that’s your woman. (and so they live happily ever after…). Isn’t that the same with growing an apple tree and expecting to reap some oranges? If they go to church, their heart may become tender and filled with love. But it doesn’t mean they become instantly ready to get married and grow a family. If they consistently preaching in churches, it is true that by time they become better on delivering God’s message. But it does not mean by doing that their family at home will become full of love and warmth. That is not a substitute for spending time and giving love to their families. It is completely a different subject. It is just like raising a cow and expecting a rabbit baby born from that cow! Isn’t that the logic? People need to do their parts in order to get into what God has planned for their lives. God’s miracle and mighty power is one side of the coin. Our willingness to take actions is the other side.

Manis itu enak. Enak di lidah dalam hal makanan. Sedap dipandang dalam hal kecantikan. Enak didengar dalam hal perkataan.

Racun adalah zat yang membahayakan. Efeknya bisa menyebabkan sakit, tidak berfungsinya organ tubuh, dan kematian.

Racun manis? Ya gitu deh.. Rasanya bisa jadi enak, tapi dampaknya bisa menyebabkan sakit. Atau bahkan kematian.

Dalam setiap hubungan antar manusia, racun-racun manis selalu mengancam. Dalam pertemanan, persahabatan, pacaran, pernikahan, hubungan orang tua-anak, kehidupan bermasyarakat, dalam kalangan gereja, di kantor, di mana pun.

Membahagiakan. Pada dasarnya orang akan merasa senang jika bisa membahagiakan orang lain. Terlebih jika itu adalah orang yang dia sayangi. Akan ada kepuasan tersendiri. Yang bahaya adalah jika "kepuasan" ini yang kemudian selalu dijadikan tujuan utama. Efeknya, orang bisa jadi enggan mengatakan hal yang sebenarnya karena khawatir orang lain sedih, atau marah. Padahal bisa jadi hal itu demikian pentingnya untuk jangka waktu yang lebih panjang. Bukannya lebih baik marahan dua hari dengan istri terus kemudian jadi tambah mesra untuk puluhan tahun ke depan? Dari pada selalu berfokus untuk menyenangkan dirinya, dan mengabaikan hal yang lebih penting. Bagaimana orang lain mengendalikan emosinya adalah urusan dia sendiri. Yang jadi urusan Anda adalah bagaimana Anda mengendalikan emosi diri sendiri. Bagaimana Anda membalikkan rasa marah menjadi bahan bakar yang kemudian menelurkan solusi. Bagaimana memutar rasa kesal menjadi sebuah peluang untuk menyampaikan harapan dalam hati Anda. Mengatur kalimat dengan baik sehingga bisa diterima dengan jelas oleh lawan bicara Anda. Itu semua ada dalam kendali Anda. Perkara bagaimana orang lain akan menanggapinya, itu urusan dia. Entah dia jadi sedih atau marah, itu bukan dalam kendali Anda. Pada umumnya tidak berani mengatakan hal yang sebenarnya menunjukkan personal insecurity dari seseorang.

Menasehati. Selalu menyenangkan jika kita melihat segala sesuatu berlaku seperti semestinya. Jika ada orang yang tidak melakukan hal "yang seharusnya", maka dia harus dinasehati. Bukan begitu? SALAH! Menasehati tidak perlu dijadikan tindakan standar yang akan Anda lakukan di saat Anda melihat suatu hal berjalan tidak seperti yang Anda inginkan. Di saat dia, pasangan Anda, memilih tindakan yang tidak akan Anda lakukan seandainya Anda jadi dia. Ada waktunya untuk mengerti "her side of the story". Dia toh pada dasarnya sudah melewati satu proses berpikir sebelum kemudian mengambil tindakan. Menasehati bukanlah satu-satunya respons yang bisa Anda ambil. Dengan terlalu sering menasehati bisa jadi Anda sedang menghambat proses pendewasaan seseorang. Atau mungkin saja Anda sedang menghambat proses pendewasaan diri Anda sendiri.

Racun-racun manis ini walau bagaimanapun akan selalu membahayakan. Hubungan Anda dengan orang yang Anda sayangi bisa "sakit" atau bahkan "mati" jika Anda terus mencekokinya dengan racun-racun manis. Karena walaupun manis, racun tetaplah zat yang mematikan.